Surprise

Surprises, they come mostly in 2 ways. One is happiness and shock. I'm one of that person who remembers from everyone's birthdays to anniversaries just to surprise them. I'm the most excited person even for others special days. I just love birthdays. But I don't know how to express this. Only one year in my life till now I got a surprise birthday gift which I didn't expect till then. It's so sad when you expect something special for your special day and most of the important people in your life doesn't even remember it.

Me and other kids who were born in July in our colony in Mumbai.

So now when I turned 24 yesterday. I thought to write down my little sadness. From a very childhood when I lived in Mumbai birthday parties were like something compulsory party of the year in everyone's life. But when I shifted to Kerala it just turned into a day that you have to go to the temple and make "Payasam" South Indian sweet dish at your home. A big celebration day turned into a very quiet normal day. Even after some time I just felt that I didn't want to celebrate due to this kind of environment. My Mumbai special birthday schedule is like going to school in birthday dress with toffees or gifts to distribute in my classroom. Everyone would sing the birthday song and after class, my family would have a small party which include a small number of neighbours and friends. Those were the great days of my life compared to the last few years.

My first birthday party. Me, My Mother and Poonam Didi

When I shifted to Kerala many things suddenly changed but I didn't think that change included my special day too. So, as I already told that I didn't have that one or two best till college. So, no one was there to gift me a surprise or remember and wish me. I didn't know it could become a big deal until I reached college. In college when everyone gave the surprise cakes to there friends and when no one knew or remembered my birthday. I felt very depressed for the first time.

I even wished that my birthday would have been on summer vacations rather than the rainy season so that I would not have to be this much sad. 

     

My First Birthday

On one birthday I got an unexpected gift on my birthday. Which I won't forget in my life and that gift was a set of earrings. I didn't expect anyone would remember my birthday even my new best friend. She gets missed the dates and forgets. Last year she called me on my birthday. I obviously didn't expect her to call but she called me. We had a good talk and even hangup but seriously she didn't remember to wish me.



I think many people nowadays only remember your birthday just because of social media. Thanks to them everyone at least wishes you even if they don't really chat with you for the whole year. Last year, I tested that thing too. I have turned off my birthday privacy. So I didn't get a wish until it was a late night. After one of my friends posted a happy birthday wish I got a few numbers of wishes but really don't you feel wasted if you too are not on anyone's priority list.

Me, Rohan Dada, Amma And Achan

I do get a birthday cake to cut but that too because I save up money and cakes are favourite. I do go out and buy the cake every year. My parents buy me a dress until now. But I have never have had my that special birthday party which I expected after a time period. Now today even though I'm writing about this that is to let you know that after a long time of expectation I just stopped expecting. Some say it's getting used to being in the situation. Maybe it's something like that. This will be my first birthday where I didn't even babbler about it to anyone.

Uncle, Aunty and Me

Even yesterday one of my best friends remembered me to send a text but the other one didn't even remember even we met face to face he had forgotten about my birthday to wish me so I thought let it be. 

My Parents gifted me a pair of Anklet and Waist Chain.

The One With The Perfect Girl

Our parents all have that one person to compare you with. I too had that perfect neighbourhood girl who knew all the household work, perfect in studies, silent, obedient. compared to that kid you will of course be a spoiled brat. She lived close to my house. We had just shifted there. I didn't know her name but for sure she was becoming the reason of my loss of peace. Whenever I pass the way near her house. I was so disappointed because she is always working. Either she will be washing clothes or washing dishes, cleaning the surroundings around the house.

Me in 11th grade (2011)

I only knew her name through my Mom's scolding. When through we were neighbors we didn't know each other or talked till three to four year until our tenth class result were to publish. Anyway even if she didn't have more A+ than me, she had a good percentage of mark. I got into high school and I opted computer science due to my fear of cutting cockroach. She got admission in my school in bio-science department. Was can be the worst thing. I hated catching cockroaches and she used to catch these for herself and sometimes for her classmates. So my mom favorite child was her because she wanted a kid like her. Calm and quiet, obedient and does all household chores in this younger age. 

But did you all didn't wonder why she was doing all that work at home. Her mother was hospital staff so she always had to go for work day and night. Since her mom wasn't at home all time my friend had to work at home. Not because she was willing but she had too.. It's kinda sad. 

So one day I decided to give a shock treatment to my dear parents. My mom had to go somewhere and my papa only had half day job. My mom had left home beautiful by 9 and won't be coming until afternoon. So I just started my playlist and to do work which where pending due to my moms busy schedule. The works I had to do was washing a ton of clothes, dry, fold them, wash all the dishes,  clean the house and surrounding, cook curry/side dish for lunch which I do before my papa comes. 

My First Pasta

The moment mom left the house I sorted all the clothes in different sections Sarees,  new clothes, old clothes, fathers, mothers, blankets and bed sheets etc..and put them in Washing machine which isn't automatic at all.  So the time I waited to take these clothes to get washed. I started cleaning up the house and when that finished I cleaned up the dishes. All these work was done except cooking. I went to have a great bath after doing all this work altogether at same day and for very first time..I had to cook the perfect curry even if I'm gonna make it for first time. Of course I sure made great dishes. But I bet I have improved a lot from then. My innocent parents aren't very curious like me. They do like same food, same job, same place. Even in 15 to 16 years of my life. We haven't made a chicken soup on any day. So I'm the one who is so curious about each and every thing. 

Anyway, after that day I did get scolded but not for knowing any job but for not doing it even when I do know the job. On days like that I get know me more. Lonely time is not that much of bad time. Now I know cooking, laundry, cleaning almost perfectly. Parents will always remain parents nor would we change.